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Hi girls, I hope some of you can join me on this very "girly" topic. Tomorrow it's Valentine's day and even though I'm not a fan of this holiday it always make me think of the fact that I've never been in a real relationship. It's kind of sad because it seems so easy for other people in my surroundings but impossible for me. I'm usually not the girl who complains about being single, I'm actually used to it. However, the society makes it hard sometimes, people are always asking etc. I think it's still better to be alone than to be in some toxic relationship but sometimes it makes me feel uncomfortable - once I was with two classmates and they began to talk about their relationships. I felt kind of excluded and then once of them mentioned some problems and the other said "at least you have a boyfriend" which made me feel quite bad as I was the only one who was single. Does anybody of you feel sometimes the same?
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Thanks @Dominika
I also feel that I'm too safe in my comfort zone and that I should try to step out of it because you always hear that it feels good to try something different but to be honest, it usually feels worse... I don't know what's wrong with me but whenever I try because you never know if you haven't tried I realize it doesn't work for me. Does it make sense at all?
It's not just about relationships but for example I went on a date with a guy because I thought I shouldn't reject every invitation just because it feels safe to stay in your comfort zone (and dating is a huge step out of it for me) but I realize I don't really enjoy it, I mean, going to dates. I know, it sounds ridiculous but sometimes I really think there has to be something wrong with me because everyone gets so excited about dates and to me it feels like a dentist appointment (ok, it's not that bad but still, I just can't relate to most people...).
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If you don't enjoy dates, don't go on them . Go for group activities, it's easier hanging out in a crowd, and you may get to meet someone you actually want to spend time with. I joined a folk music club, just made myself useful helping with running the club, and ended up going out with a folk singer for a while. Though that didn't last, two other men I met there are still my friends, we've stayed in touch for years.