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Just what I wanted to say. He seems very happy overall but in some interviews (like the boogie one) you sometimes see his eyes fade as if he goes to another world. His face gets very serious too. Only for a few seconds but if you have seen your own child go through pain you see that with others as well. I guess we cannot even imagine how it must have been for him.

 

Lucky for him he had a very supportive family. And still has. His older sister clearly loves him very much and his mother is with him a lot. I think this support from home is what helps him - specially in these mad times where he is travelling so much and the pressure must be enormous.

 

I hope he is happy with where he is now.

 

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Just what I wanted to say. He seems very happy overall but in some interviews (like the boogie one) you sometimes see his eyes fade as if he goes to another world. His face gets very serious too. Only for a few seconds but if you have seen your own child go through pain you see that with others as well. I guess we cannot even imagine how it must have been for him.

 

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That is exactly what I see when he talks about his childhood... He doesn't talk as much about it as people make out, and I don't think he is looking for sympathy, but it clearly is still a big and bitter part of his life or his memories...

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Just think for a second what a child wants in life and what child's life consists of?

Does he think - I'm happy because my parents are loaded? or because my school it the most expensive one?

 

No, child wants to socialise, to have friends, to play games with them, to be excepted... He doesn't want happiness to be beaten out of him, sometimes literally... This is the age when ones socializing skills develop and when this process is going horribly wrong, it bound to affect the rest of persons life. The child is like a clean paper and if somebody writes on it that you are a freak and an outcast, it takes some time to overwrite it. And you need years for that.

A lot of people were being bullied, a lot got over it, but Mika's experience was so much more hurtful... He's dyslexia worsened, he had a nervous breakdown and he stopped talking, remember? How many children you know that were traumatised like that?

He is just 23, very young and clearly hasn't dealt with that experience yet... and I can't blame him....

So, if he feels like talking about it, I'd say let him, as long as it helps...

I don't think he wants sympathy, it's just clearly playing on his mind and if you haven't noticed he says everything he thinks on interviews, he hasn't learned putting a mask on yet...

He came out at the other end a better person, he's learned a lot... I'm sure he appreciates friendship more than most people out there and he would never hurt or bully anyone in his life... He embraces life - he smiles a lot, he is happy.... but you can see pain behind that smile sometimes.... well, I can see it anyway.... And it kind of hurts me too.

 

Beautifully said, couldn't say it any better.

I find talking about bullying very easy over the net...because it's not as personal. If I were to talk to you in person I wouldn't really want to talk about it...I'd try to keep it simple and move onto another topic.

You can't talk about bullying in a fun or childish way. Bullying is a serious subject and even the most fun loving person would become serious when talking about this. There are different levels of bullying, but everyone takes it differently.

 

Mika was traumatised.

 

Don't test and say his life was easier than we think.

 

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i definately don't think that he is trying to create a sob-story at all, i mean if you've heard "Your Sympathy" he kind of says it himself. I was bullied really bad in middle school through the beginning of high school, and i think it has made me a stronger person, but at the same time it still is a threat to my self-esteem. I kinda think it may be the same story with him, but worse because of the complications from his learning disablilties. No one should have to go through that and as for the topic of "his father being a millionare" i'm not sure how true that is, but money definately cannot buy happiness. But most rock and pop stars are kind of messed up! It's their problems that let them write such beautiful and meaningful songs. Same reason why so many stars get into drugs and such, because they aren't happy. I LOVE YOU MIKA <3

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I didn't get bullied at school, only when I was an adult and working in an office. It is the most horrible thing in the world to happen to anybody

 

it's such a shame that it still continues even in adulthood.

It's so sad, pointless.

Bullies bully for different reasons, but no-one deserves to be victimised.

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At school the other kids liked me. But in the office that I worked in they were very sexist and i wasn't and am still not your stereotypical looking woman plus I let them get away with some of the comments. It was soul destroying.

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At school the other kids liked me. But in the office that I worked in they were very sexist and i wasn't and am still not your stereotypical looking woman plus I let them get away with some of the comments. It was soul destroying.

 

sometimes not retaliating is the best thing. the more you argue back the more the bullies know they're winding you up.

but then...if you dont fight back...they'll either get bored or they'll think you're a walkover.

 

i mean, what do you do? It's so hard.

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sometimes not retaliating is the best thing. the more you argue back the more the bullies know they're winding you up.

but then...if you dont fight back...they'll either get bored or they'll think you're a walkover.

 

i mean, what do you do? It's so hard.

 

As for me I think not fighting back is a mistake.... Although it depends on a situation... Sometimes you just don't want to get hurt even more...

I had problems like that in school in the beginning, it was getting really bad... but you know what cornered frightened creature does? Attacks! And one day I realised that they only bully you if you are scared...

Since then I didn't have problems with bullies... On contrary, I was sticking up for others! Didn't make me a very popular girl with the "cool ones", but then it's understandable, because they got some bruises from me... Got me in trouble a few times that... :naughty:

I'm not that wild anymore, hehe, all grown up... avoid confrontation...

But seeing someone being bullied makes me really mad, I mean proper mad... especially if it's someone I love.... It's like I still have that switch somewhere that makes me tremble with anger sometimes...

 

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As for me I think not fighting back is a mistake.... Although it depends on a situation... Sometimes you just don't want to get hurt even more...

I had problems like that in school in the beginning, it was getting really bad... but you know what cornered frightened creature does? Attacks! And one day I realised that they only bully you if you are scared...

Since then I didn't have problems with bullies... On contrary, I was sticking up for others! Didn't make me a very popular girl with the "cool ones", but then it's understandable, because they got some bruises from me... Got me in trouble a few times that... :naughty:

I'm not that wild anymore, hehe, all grown up... avoid confrontation...

But seeing someone being bullied makes me really mad, I mean proper mad... especially if it's someone I love.... It's like I still have that switch somewhere that makes me tremble with anger sometimes...

 

 

I know exactly what you mean. After seeing what happened to my best friend..and experiencing what I did...everytime I saw someone fight in school - even if I didn't know them - I stepped in and stopped it.

 

I just have to. I don't know why. I don't even think about what I'm doing. One minute I see it, next minute I'm IN it.

I know I shouldn't meddle, but it's just an automatic reaction.

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sometimes not retaliating is the best thing. the more you argue back the more the bullies know they're winding you up.

but then...if you dont fight back...they'll either get bored or they'll think you're a walkover.

 

i mean, what do you do? It's so hard.

 

omg i know i have this kid at school who is always teasing me and putting me down...i really havent been like full out bullied when i think about it..like not the bullying in typical high school movies...but he has said **** like o elizabeth is the fattest one here (which im not im like 5'4" and 120 lbs) and hes is always making comments like im stupid...it kinda hurts and i fight back haha ive said some mean things back but talking to my friend the other day i realized i just need to stop...i have to pull a "well your entitled to your opinon" and eventually he will not think its fun to bully me anymore and put me down...people bully others because there is an empty space in their life and they feel they can fill it by making fun of others...it just doesnt work that way..i feel very bad for mika...bullying hurts..hes done well to try and get over it and im very proud of him...and just think, i bet all of those bullys wished they were his friend now! haha he showed them!

 

ive told some of my friends i was gonna start dressing like mika and wearing suspenders..be unique from everyone else and all of them responded like this:blink: :shocked::thumbdown: and i was just like hmm well whatever.. ill do whatever i want...im sure when i do it i might get bullied but you have to learn to just be who you want to be...we can all learn from mika to never change who you are to fit in....he said he loved wearing bow ties! if he wants to wear bow ties ppl shouldve just left him alone and be like well if it makes him happy then:thumb_yello: greeeeat! but bullys will always be there....and they can only make you stronger...which you can see by the ppls stories in this thread..

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it's such a private matter, I feel a little bad to discuss it, such as the relationship with his family.

 

i think he had some sufferences during his childhood. he did have some happy years in france, he told it clearly, how magic it was there and how hard it was afterwards and in some circumstances also before.

 

he's had some hard traumas in his childhood and adolescence, yes. it could be it was overall happy though. one can have some really hard times but still consider himself and happy/positive person.

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omg i know i have this kid at school who is always teasing me and putting me down...i really havent been like full out bullied when i think about it..like not the bullying in typical high school movies...but he has said **** like o elizabeth is the fattest one here (which im not im like 5'4" and 120 lbs) and hes is always making comments like im stupid...it kinda hurts and i fight back haha ive said some mean things back but talking to my friend the other day i realized i just need to stop...i have to pull a "well your entitled to your opinon" and eventually he will not think its fun to bully me anymore and put me down...people bully others because there is an empty space in their life and they feel they can fill it by making fun of others...it just doesnt work that way..i feel very bad for mika...bullying hurts..hes done well to try and get over it and im very proud of him...and just think, i bet all of those bullys wished they were his friend now! haha he showed them!

 

ive told some of my friends i was gonna start dressing like mika and wearing suspenders..be unique from everyone else and all of them responded like this:blink: :shocked::thumbdown: and i was just like hmm well whatever.. ill do whatever i want...im sure when i do it i might get bullied but you have to learn to just be who you want to be...we can all learn from mika to never change who you are to fit in....he said he loved wearing bow ties! if he wants to wear bow ties ppl shouldve just left him alone and be like well if it makes him happy then:thumb_yello: greeeeat! but bullys will always be there....and they can only make you stronger...which you can see by the ppls stories in this thread..

 

yeah definitely.

 

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I can relate! you try to put this front of false confidence!

 

i was bullied from the day I started school till the day i finished! i pushed myself through every year of school untill i graduated high school!

Teachers also liked to pick on me! I also ONLY recently found out that mika also has dyslexia and so teachers often thing that dyslexic students are just dumb or lazy! and I am speeking from experience here! students also pick on the person who is maybe falling behind!

 

Ok so his father was kinda rich but that doesnt mean that the family lived in luxury or for that matter were perfectly happy all the time. material things like a house in a great neighbourhood is nothing! Compared to the feelings inside!

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Awww I was like that when i first watched his interviews.

I was bullied so i know where he was going.

I was also pretty amazed coz ive been thro it but never really been so energetic and happy about tellin people about it.

Its always been quite sad for me.

I love the way he is soo kind and bubbly etc

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Awww I was like that when i first watched his interviews.

I was bullied so i know where he was going.

I was also pretty amazed coz ive been thro it but never really been so energetic and happy about tellin people about it.

Its always been quite sad for me.

I love the way he is soo kind and bubbly etc

 

Its amaizing that he can chat about it with such a happy way! i could never do that! I start to chat about it and it just gets to much!

He is a big inspireation for me, to be ok with what has happened and to laugh at it now!!!

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i think we hsould take this as inpsiration to anyone whos has ever been bullied..keep being you and be an individual, no ones opion matters but yourself, yes im realizing how conry that was but hey, its my translation of what mika has done in life

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Alot of valid points here.

 

I think being bullied by peers can be devastating as a child, so I do believe that did negatively affect him.

 

However, Mika seems alot better off than the average kid being teased at school, because his parents had the resources to take him out. Also, he *seems* (and i say seems because i don't personally know him and therefore cannont say for sure) to have had a stable home life. His parents (and siblings and extended family) seem to be supportive and good people. So all of that helped.

 

I think it's great that he can seem so happy and well adjusted now despite a rough childhood in many ways. But then again, you can see a darker sad side to him on certain songs like over my shoulder, and a few outtakes. (like intoxicated if you've heard it)

 

lol @ the snobbish comment. you're right, the thing about the shirt does seem a tad snobish. but i mean, he grew up richer than most of here i'm sure, so it's natural that he might be a little discerning. But i have to say he seems remarkably down to earth for a guy with an affluent upbringing.

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No, I haven't heard this one!!!! Where did you find it? Are you sure it's Mika's song?

*panics* I can't believe I've missed it!!! :sweatdrop: :eek:

Has anyone else heard it?

 

oh yes I love that song :wub2:

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