Crystal

Wow!! That would not happen here!! We get to suffer pain freely!!

yes, Canada is getting very liberal these days

Indeed

And two sons

oh my! Well I really am not having any

CONFUSIOOOOON.

 

 

yeah , i believe in abstinence and i probably won't do anything drastic until i can be prepared for an accident (baby) to happen . My mom knows that I'm inlove with mika, she's seen LiveICM wherehe dances with big girls... i think that she knowooowooows.

That is a very mature choice and I hope that you don't cave to peer pressure! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!

Thinking back, there had been a huge story line in Coronation Street, one of our UK soaps, where a 13 year old became pregnant. It was really well done and the characters involved have only just left the program. Anyway, it gave me lots of opportunities to talk to all mine about their behaviour. I have a line about girls being somebody's daughter, somebody's sister, that I use with the boys. And for a while it was my 'target' for my daughter not to become pregnant at that age.

 

Now I want to be a grandma before I'm 60!

My mother resigned herself years ago to the fact that the closest she will come to being a grandmother is to my cats She laughingly called them my 'daughters' for years

You get "ermmmm" scripts from your doctor?

LOL i get a prescription for what she was 'ermmm'-ing about LOL

I did the same regularly with my daughter, and bless, when she was ready she asked my opinion and I was completely involved.

 

Do you see the irony of my last post

you mean this part? "I was in that boat. Childless by Choice" and now you have a daughter?

I'm 14, i cant even imagine having sex at this age. yes, yes, i am the good child doing what shes told blah blah blah but it's just the idea of kids my age having intercores...it freaks me out.

 

 

if you cant read the condom box....then you probably ARE a baby and should therefore not be having sex whatsoever

I didn't actually have sex until I was 16, but at least i was ready in case I DID. I think she started thinking about it when I started putting millions of magazine pictures of beautiful boys from rock bands on my walls at 14. Mom was great for that. Very proactive. Me and my mom were always friends too. She's still my best friend, and we talk about everything.

There is a long time between now and next November. You can start

looking for ways to earn money after you have had a great relaxing

summer!!

Except that I go back to school in sepetember, where I'll be living off of a student loan for another year and not working making any money until next summer

Hi Crystal. Gosh, we have some interesting people on the MFC don't we?

Good luck finishing your work and tidying up. Enjoy your graduation and Hawaii.

St John's Wort? What do people take that for?

'....keep me in tobacco and other smokeables...' ermmmmm???

'....because I've been procrastinating about finding a summer job, and now I know why. This was dropped in my lap on Thursday morning, so it's very recent, and I'm really glad I wasn't committed elsewhere ....' I am a great believer in procrastination. People around me call it laziness

Thanks

People take St Johns Wort for depression mostly, although it can also be used to suppress alcohol intake(apparently stops the cravings for it), as well as it's a light anti-biotic.

I'm not going to elaborate on the 'ermmm' comment other than to say I have a prescription from my doctor for my chronic arthritis.

And I think that you are right about procrastination LOL Although I'm thinking it was fate, really!

I totally agree with you , and believe its everyones personal chocie as to IF and when they want kids ...

 

I also think from personal experience that some kids result to pregnancies due to needing to feel loved in return by something or someone but dont actually think about what they are getting themselves into due to like you say being a child themselves, when the pregnancy is planned that is ... thats why i asked previously if the 14 year old who is trying to get pregnant has a good relationship at home with family etc ... Im not saying it applies to everyone , but quite a few people i have known and fell pregnant have come from quite a dysfunctional family ... just one of my experiences with people who have fell preg so young...

 

 

 

another reason i dont understand .. is IT BLOODY HURTS GURLS !! ITS NOT PRETTY !!

I agree with you there. I know a girl who was 16 who said that she just wanted someone that she knew would love her no matter what. That she would have the unconditional love that she was searching for, that she would find it in a baby. Well she had her baby, and walked out on the father and the baby after a year. She's since gone on to have 2 more children with 2 other fathers, and they have all been taken away by child services except the first, which is now 7 years old and living happily with Daddy as a single father.

but condom's aren't always effective, and that's easier to just go out to the store and buy condoms than ask your mom for B.C pills... I just think Sastaining from sex all in all should be done until an age appropriate time where people will be able to care for their kids . Abstinate

Abstaining of course, is the best way to go. But sometimes kids don't have the personal control necessary to keep their hormones in check. Condoms aren't the only birth control option, neither are BC pills, there is depo, the patch, IUD(not really a good option), the little tubes they can put under the skin, the list goes on and on. If there is a Planned Pregnancy office or even some sort of teen center, they usually have birth control options available, as they don't want teens to have kids either. My mom was nice enough to offer BCpills to me when I was 14, knowing that children usually will do exactly the opposite of what parents want, so she'd rather me be on BC than be pregnant.

Sounds like a good learning experience - and it will be help and company

for the lady of the house as well! Sometimes things happen without any

help from us - and it sounds like your not finding a summer job, then this

coming up - well, its meant in some way!!

If you enjoy it - and get food, company and experience then there is

no need for money then!!

Exactly

Although it kind of puts a damper on me saving money for my South American trip next November. I'll have to make all the money in one summer LOL

Kids having kids is not a good thing. The girls don't have the life experience necessary to look after children, and they have not yet amassed the knowledge to pass along to their children as they should.

I do not agree with kids having kids. There are so many birth control choices out there that the fact that we still have problems with this amaze me.

I'm almost 35, no kids, never pregnant, don't want kids. I've played enough chicken in my life that I have had lots of chances, but still, through responsible choices managed to not get pregnant.

Although, I would have to honestly say that if I did get pregnant, I would probably choose the abortion route, because my life and job do not work with being tied down with a child/children. There are enough children out there needing adoption already, I wouldn't want to burden the system further with my 'whoops! Sorry!'.

I can't wait until the doctors tell me I'm finally old enough to choose a tubal ligation. I've been trying for so many years, but apparently they don't want to do them until you've had a child. Which seems silly to me, don't I have the right to not have children if I don't want them? How long do I have to tell them I don't want kids before they'll actually believe me? How old do I have to be? Honestly?!?! LOL

Hi Crystal - sounds like you have a busy time coming up!!

Hawaii sounds fun though!!

What kind of farm - and what kind of work will you be doing?

yep it's going to be busy for sure

I am going to take SOOOOOOOOOOOO many pictures when I'm in hawaii that my pack will be filled with batteries to run it!

I will be working on a St John's Wort farm, as well as just helping out around the house. These are friends of mine, a couple in their 50's now. Parents of one of my best friends. They have 310 acres and the hubby has been working alot and is not home alot. He runs a masonry and construction company, and has been getting alot of work outside the property. The wife is partially disabled, she has some paralysis on the left side of her body and has a tough time around the house. I've been going to visit these folks for 20 years, staying a week here, a weekend there, and every time I go there it's just an amazing feeling. I love it there. They told me that if I don't have enough money to buy a piece of their property before they die, they will put a chunk for me in their will because they know I love it there so much. it's like paradise. Well the wife wants me to come there this summer and help her out because her hubby hasn't been there, and as well she's been a bit depressed being all alone, and she loves my positive energy and I will help her get outside to work on her garden, help her cook, do some minor renovations around the house that need done, help to harvest the flowers of the St John's Wort when they are ready, put them in the bottles of oil and let them cook in the sunshine. I will help to look after the dogs and the chickens, help with laundry, learn about herbs and plants (she is a horticulturalist), and most of all learn how to live on that land productively. If I plan to live there myself, I suspect it's a wonderful idea to learn how the seasons work and when to plant, and what to grow.

It's my own little slice of heaven and I get to spend the summer there

They won't be paying me much, but they will house me, feed me, keep me in tobacco and other smokeables, and teach me. That, to me, is worth any cost. So I have a free place to stay for the summer

It's funny, because I've been procrastinating about finding a summer job, and now I know why. This was dropped in my lap on Thursday morning, so it's very recent, and I'm really glad I wasn't committed elsewhere so that I could do this

Thanks for this!! I sang it as I read it!!

I did too Morning oldlings

After a heavy weekend of partying, I'm here. This has been a long month, and I expect it to continue. Graduation is on Friday, and my parents arrive on Thursday, and I still have a couple of assignments to finish up before they arrive, not to mention cleaning out my room because I won't be staying here this summer. I stayed in the dorms last summer and worked locally at a bird rehabilitation center, but this summer I'll be heading west a couple of hours and work on a farm for this summer.

I suspect I will be online once or twice a day in the summertime, but I can't be sure. It will be busy on the farm, and I don't know how often I'll have time to pop online.

I head to Hawaii with my mother in 2 weeks! OMG!

Hows everyone?

well Fellow Oldlings, I must go for lunch in the cafeteria (and maybe see some pretty boys from Chile there!) and then off to my fish management final exam!!

I'll be back later

so you put her in a jar when she was either in spider years looking for love, or maybe a teenager in love

Oh yes! Why must she be a teenager in love? I hope she found what she was looking for!

 

Yes i agree !! People can be very prickly out there !!!

Ready to jump on what you say:sneaky2:

 

 

 

I'm a real animal supporter, nice to see more like minded views

 

Hello everyone, nice to see some normality back in here !!!!!!!!!!!

 

Let's Dance ..put on your red shoes and dance the blues !!!!

You are right, they can be prickly, which is why I try to avoid prickly subjects!! Glad to see there are other people out there too with similar viewpoints I've definitely found a lot more like minded people since I joined this program, and no longer feel so alone!

*totally puts on her dancing shoes!*

he has one green eye and the other is blue,

You know what, I never noticed that before!!!

if it wasnt a woman how could it be a widow, and how could she be a widow if she wasnt married ?

Well, since I didn't have her life history, and her lack of vocal chords means I can't ask her, she could very well not be a widow at all, and simply a spinster!!! *giggle* I did get her when she was still immature, so I don't know if she has any romantic experience LOL

He never really did it for me - but has got lovely eyes!!!!

When it comes to me and my men, they could be ugly as sin, and if their golden vocal chords struck my soul, they become the most beautiful things in the universe

Then there's MIKA, he's got looks and the lovely voice!!

 

:wub2:

Mmmmm yummy!!! :mf_lustslow:

just to let you notice that i hit the 10,000 posts!

 

brb, need to do something in the house.

 

hallo everyone!

Congrats!!!!!!

still looking for some students I met a few years ago, they were young americans and a china girl,

Were they with David Bowie?

I think i'm turning Japenese, I could be your Japenes boy

Turning Japanese? You think you're turning Japanese? You really think so?

Is it definitely the same plant? It looks lovely in batter!!!

Yep it is. When it gets close to the end of it's life, it loses the pretty green feathery bits and turns brown and grows that knobby bit at the top which is where it releases it's seeds from so that more horsetails can grow

you found a pretty woman in your bathroom, was she dancing on the ceiling?

Well she wasn't dancing, just kind of sitting there looking at me!! And it wasn't a woman really... it was a spider LOL

Each to their own I guess. My sister has a snake - almost 6 feet in

length now - and I have had it round my shoulders a few times - but

lots of folk run when they see the tank!!

I think I'd run from people before I ran from animals LOL

yeah, I'm wierd. I'm a bug lover, I even learned how to say "I love insects" in japanese so that I could impress the exhange students here and have them laugh when I explain it. they always think I am saying it wrong so they laugh, then I say no, really, I do love insects! Come see my spider! Then they realize I really am saying what I mean to say LOL