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1 hour ago, silver said:

I must admit I have thought it would be good to have a sort of instructional thread - "How do I" multiquote/add a pic/embed a video/change my signature etc. - with step by step instructions, just to have all that info in one place.  I know there are instructions on how to do things throughout the forum, but maybe having them in one place would help

 

Re the front page, this doesn't seem to lend itself to frequent updates (unlike FB) but I think this may be due to the forum software provider rather than anything that the MFC does.

Some instructions might be good. But at the same time, who wants to read a bunch of instructions to use a website? People are impatient, and websites are usually intuitive. 

Thats what people these days are used to and seem to like; some sort of newsfeed. There's the activity stream, but that's not quite as eye catching. It's a start to what I'm implying. An older version of MFC, you mods could put posts on the front page. Something like that again I think would be good, so people can see what kind of things they would be getting into without getting into the forum. It doesn't need frequent updates like facebook. 

26 minutes ago, Siri said:

 

I honestly didn't want to sign up at first. I read on the net about bad behaviours from people from MFC, and that on the site everybody act like friends, and then in person they treat you very badly.

 

Whaaaaat??? Really? That's awful! 

I know that back in the day, there was some online drama. But that's because some people on here who were young just told some blatant lies on the internet.

Maybe making more of an effort to be internationally friendly should be a priority, then. It used to be that most Mika fans spoke english, but I think most of them nowadays speak Italian. If we haven't done a good enough job catering to them, then that is a problem.  

3 hours ago, Siri said:

Mmmmh...I stopped asking to be added in sub-fanclubs because I think I would sign in nearly all of them  but if you ask it that way...

I'll add you! 

Yeah, it such an ancient concept because almost everyone who owns the fan club threads anymore is inactive. 

5 minutes ago, sara09 said:

 

Thank you, I'd love to! 

You are added, my dear!

The platform is definitely obsolete, a lot of young people don't even know what a forum is nowadays. But, I don't think you will find the sense of community anywhere else and that could be something, I don't know.. advertised? 

I know it's a forum and all, but if the whole platform was more user-friendly it would probably be better. There is a learning curve to it. Like, I still haven't figured out how to embed a video on this new MFC interface. Yikes. 

I also think posts just about everyday on the front page would be interesting and draw people in, kind of like a blog or something. 

(Plus, I don't think we need an app. It would be very buggy and disappointing unless you have a really high budget)

1 hour ago, teenagedreamer98 said:

 

I'll let you know how I get on.  Usually I tend to be tactful with people, although my new year resolution was to tell people how I really feel, so I'd better stick to it haha!  I'm going to try and hang out with him more, on a one-to-one basis.  That way, we might be more open to each other.

 

That sucks but I'm happy you found a wonderful person.  There was a guy I liked at high school, but when he found out I liked him he went mad at me and said he never wanted me to contact him again.  This was years ago, but I'm worried that the same thing might happen again with the guy I like now.  Hopefully not, though.

That's a good idea! Ask him to do something, maybe get coffee or some other activity. That's the way to go! 

Seems like we've attracted the crazy boys in the past. I doubt something like that will happen now. But, you won't know until you try. Unfortunately, love is about getting hurt as well as being unbelievably happy. Can't have the good without the bad. 

1 hour ago, teenagedreamer98 said:

 

My parents have a 6 year age gap and they've been married for over 20 years, so I know it can definitely work.  But, as you say, it can be difficult, which is why I'm so apprehensive.

 

I'm really not sure whether he likes me or not.  Some days I think he does, others I think not.  I've been getting so many mixed signals and it's been driving me crazy! 

 

I've spoken to several people about it though and they all said it's worth a try, so I guess I'll have to see how it goes.  Thanks for the advice. 

Let me know how it goes with him! The best way to figure out how he feels is being straightforward, but the difficult thing is figuring out if you want to risk the status quo of your friendship to do so. If its driving you crazy, I'd shoot the moon and ask. But I'm a blunt person, so I've never had difficulty with that kind of thing. 

Man, this is making me think about all my relationships that were complete s**t from before I met my boyfriend. My last boyfriend was a literal sociopath. I fell for him because he liked Mika and he sang opera and all this s**t... was a scumbag though.  But it just makes me super thankful for how great my man is now. 

I completely forgot about how I own this thread 

If anyone wants to be added to the list let me know! In the meantime, I'm going to appreciate them EYES 

5 hours ago, teenagedreamer98 said:

Hi guys, how are you all doing? 

 

Sorry for being so inactive here lately.  I've been incredibly busy with college and have a lot on my mind right now.

 

I also have a bit of a dilemma.  There's this guy in my college course who I think is really cute.  We've been talking and hanging out quite a bit, and I really love spending time with him.  In fact, I found out through a mutual friend that he finds me attractive.  Only trouble is, there is an age gap of 8 years.  Plus, I've never been in a serious relationship, so I don't really know what I'm doing.  Should I ask him out and risk rejection, or do nothing?  He has shown a few signs of interest (he said he liked my eyes once ), but I feel that the age gap is the main issue.

 

Any advice would be appreciated!

Age gaps usually don't matter, but can be a little tricker when you're younger; like us. My boyfriend and I have a 6 year age gap and we never notice it most of the time and we have been together for almost 2 years now (we even live together, plan on moving across the country together, plan on getting married, etc.), but sometimes things will hit me that reminds me how young and naïve I truly am compared to him. Like when I hang out with his friends, I'm the only one still in school and the rest of them have careers or are married/getting married. It can be odd at times, but not to the point where I regret anything about the relationship I have. 

Why not ask him out!? I think if you like him and you think he likes you too you, don't have much to lose. I was the initiator in my relationship and look where I am now   We also met on tinder, but that's another story. 

On 12/25/2017 at 4:16 AM, Heather1 said:

Hi I’m heather I’m from Seattle, wa and been a fan of Mika’s for a while! I found out about him while listening to “popular song” and have been obsessed since. I haven’t seen him live YET!! But I’ve been dying to. It’s crazy because in my state hardly no one knows about him except for my friends so I’ve started a fan club in my school to start bringing attention to him.

Hi Heather!

Welcome to MFC!

I haven't seen Mika live yet either and been a fan for years.. I just haven't have a chance! I hope that the next time he comes to America we will both get to see him!

On 1/13/2018 at 3:28 AM, Starlight said:

I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time at the moment... but I'm pretty sure it'll all get better and better okay at the end. if you need someone to talk to we're here!

The last year wasn't easy for my me as well... I also had to think about life and how to go on as I didn't pass my finals at university. So I had a hard time for a few weeks, but then I had to decide what to do. So applied for a job at a lawyer and they wanted me.

I'm working there now and I made up the decision to try my exam again when I'm a legal secretary.

So you should never give up and just take the chances life will give to you. It'll all be okay!

I'm glad that thing worked out for you, I know how hard it is feeling like an utter failure  Good luck when you take it again!

On 1/14/2018 at 5:19 PM, silver said:

 

It's hard to stop yourself worrying about big things like moving/waiting for the results of applications, but they are things that you don't have a lot of control over.  You will just have to surrender to the situation when it arrives.

 

It might help, if you are worried about moving, just to make a list of the things that will need to be done, so that you can see what needs to be resolved rather than just feeling generalised anxiety.

 

And it's a long time until the summer, so don't let worry stop you from enjoying things now. 

Thanks for the advice, I just like to overthink and worry about things. My grades aren't the best so I'm also worried about not getting into my first choice school and thaaaaaat's a whole other anxiety thing that I've pretty much gotten over because there's nothing I can do about it now.

Just need to chill out. I should literally jump in the giant snowbanks outside and to chill 

I'm pretty filled with anxiety right now, and I just need a place to vent. I'm applying to schools and I just want to get it over with, but I have to play the waiting game right now because of something to do with tuition here in the states. The whole waiting thing works me up so much, these months are going to be hell for me. Then theres the whole fact that most people my age are getting ready to or already have graduated with an undergraduate degree, which is frustrating. I know I just have to go at my own pace and not compare myself to others, but its hard sometimes. AND I'm also mentally preparing myself to moving like, 1200 miles this summer, which is going to be an anxiety attack and mental shutdown after another. I've got a lot thats about to change in my life and I'm just sitting here waiting for all it to happen at once, pretty much. 

My boyfriend has been encouraging me to do stuff like this more. 

15 hours ago, We-Are-Golden said:

 

Hello, nice to meet you! I'm Charlotte  Yeah a lot has changed here, especially this year  

16 hours ago, Starlight said:

Hello!

 

Nice to meet you! I don't think we spoke ever before...

How long have you been away from here? 

Hello! Nice to meet you both. 

I've been away for a little over a year. I know, how awful! 

Limelight - Rush

Hi there

My, how this website has changed. Definitely, for the better though. I'm glad we have the same emoticons, that makes me really happy. 

I miss the lovely friendships I once had on here, maybe I will try to make some new ones. 

I have a terrible roommate. She's always, and I mean always, on the couch watching tv extremely loud. She never cleans up after herself properly, then blames me for it. She asks me more questions about my life than my mom or my grandmothers, which can get really annoying. She lies all the time, as well.

I can't help but to feel bad for her too, she obviously has depression. I've tried to talk to her about it, be a friend, but she just ignores the obvious. It's hard to be around her. 

 

I'm sure you'll have a brilliant time.  What ideas do you have?

Cleopatra, a pirate, Elf on the Shelf, the Cat in the Hat, Pingu.. I'll probably think of more in the next week

I actually want to do something for Halloween this year, but I don't really have anyone to hang out with because all my friends are away at uni.  So that takes part of the fun away.

 

 

Mine is The Little Mermaid but I also like Frozen, Beauty and the Beast, and the Jungle Book.

The best for sure.

 

 

Me, too. I want to plan something this year as I am free this time.

I'm just about to watch Bolt, which is one of my favourite Disney movies.

I'm having a halloween party this year with my roommates. We all love Halloween so it'll be a blast! I just have to decide what to dress up as... I've got too many options floating around in my head 

It's super difficult to just pick one favorite disney movie, huh? Recently, my favorites been Big Hero Six.

Watching the Corpse Bride right now. I'm so excited for Halloween. 

I used to post SO much like... YEARS ago

This place looks so different now! I doubt anyone will remember me! But I do occasionally like to pop in here

Welcome back!

I'm kinda in the same boat as you. Though, you were probably on here a lot before I was even a member 

Life for me got a little busier plus all of my friends that were on here grew out of it, I suppose.  (plus other things that I went into detail about on ChickenFM) But, I always come back eventually. Because this website is one of the best places on the internet. 

I haven't played uke in ages, so I decided to pick it up and play this today

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I look and sound awful. I'm sick

Welcome Viky! It's nice to meet you. 

Welcome! 

Oh my god, that's so horrible!  I really can't imagine how much pain you and your friends are going through right now.  But trust me, things will be alright in the end, I promise.  I'm honestly not good at helping people but I really hope you can get through this, and I'm sure you will.

Remember that I'm always here to chat if you need someone to talk to.   ​

Oh my, that is just horrible! I'm so sorry for your friend. I can't imagine what you all are going through right now.

 

oh my, how terrible ( There is so much concerning how rape is handled that could be different. But you are right, you just have to be there for your friend right now. Hope you both will feel better over time. 

Thanks for the kind words, guys. Things are going as well as they can be and we are sticking together. 

I forgot how much I loved MFC because it is literally an internet support group. Everyone on here is the best.

This weekend has been really tough for my friends and I and it just feels so surreal. I can't help but post something on here about it.

My friend was raped this weekend. The circumstances of the situation are still and probably always will be unknown. The hospital and the police did not handle anything like they should have. It's just been awful.

I'm here to say that something like this can really happen to anyone, anytime and anyplace. And the secondhand experience of this is terrifying so I can't even imagine what my friend is going through right now. And I don't think there's anything I can do for her except just be there for her.