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I don't know if MFC is the right place for it but since I can't discuss this on social media or irl, I thought I could try it here... What would you do, if someone really close to you express themselves in a slightly homophobic way? Would you try to convince him/her otherwise? Would you just ignore it and avoid this topic in conversations? Or would you even stop meeting such a person ?
The thing is, I have a best friend I know for ages, she is the closest person I have in my life besides my family. But it really bothers me when she speaks about someone being gay as it would be a bad/not normal thing. I tried to explain it to her but I think it's not so easy to change her mind about it. She tolerates people being gay but she doesn't approve it if you know what I mean. And I really hate it but at the same time, I know she is not a bad person and it's really hard for me because she is like my sister. It's a similar feeling like when someone in your family says something you don't agree with but at the same time you don't want to argue about it because those people are so close to you but it still bothers you a lot. I hope it makes sense. What do you think about it?
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That's a difficult one to answer. Why does your friend have this belief? If it's for religious reasons, or her family are homophobic too, it may be impossible for her to overcome her early indoctrination. All you can do is keep pointing out that there is nothing unnatural or bad about homosexuality and keep exposing her to gay culture.
In the end you will have to either accept her as a friend with flaws (but keep working on the homophobia), or decide that her views are too distasteful to you and stop seeing her.
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Wow that's really hard and of course a terrible situation for you... I'm sorry...
Actually you should try to talk to her about it and try to find out why she thinks this way. What are her reasons? As silver said.
If you know them it might be better for you to find a solution maybe. I mean if you know her arguments you can try to convince her that she's wrong.
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