Asperger's syndrome

[Sity]

Has anyone heard of this?

 

Asperger syndrome

 

Asperger syndrome in Wikipedia

 

I just found out two days ago I might be an aspie. It would certainly explain

just about everything of my weird-ass behavior and fears of people, to put it

mildly confusing back-stabbing life. I might have not been that depressed all

the years, just constantly missunderstood and missunderstanding and in my

opinion it is easy to fall in depression if you're not even made to be normal.

I don't go with people so I need a lot of time being alone and love it. I love

people but prefer watch them go from a distance.

 

I think extremely logically. I didn't know it was a lack of feelings but to think

of it - I feel people act non-logically and bound to weird things at least not

the same as I do. It does need a moment of melt-down catastrophy to make

me cry.

 

Main problem is the fact you piss people off being the best of

yourself, wishing only good. I have found myself been there all peaceful as

someone has got horribly mad at me, distraction out of blue (as I saw it).

Left me scared to death and plain astonished.

I certainly do miss some of the signals.

They just think Im arrogant and as I don't have a clue some of the signs

when and how to be sympathetic. I also get stuck with the most

unnecessary facts in stories and cause people think Im trying to

smart my ass off.

 

What brought me to it, I have always had a struggle to look people in the

eye. I thought it had something to do with one's sexuality and tension -

I had to thought of some reason. I communicate - to say it nicely - clumsily.

Speaking rationally is very rare to me, I need to think of how I phrase

everything Im saying. Non-verbal communication has been a pain for me,

today I just go for it, got no idea what Im doing most of the time

though.

 

Of course some people will never notice but that is for the years I've coped

trying to look normal.

 

Even Im surely moving on, so far I feel for this community.

Mika has been a great factor and a relief point in my life.

I was a wreck when I met this all.

Going down as you are into a world of being yourself and embracing it

dancing in confetti surely made the trick.

I got new passion for things and started to push towards what I want from

my life. It's been a big time trouble, I have a problem maintaining my

independent life - which is the only way for me so far to do it.

 

Now I just might have a reason for why I do things as I do instead of being

automatically labelled as a loser. Fantastic.

[silver]

Have you been diagnosed medically as having Asperger's syndrome? It is certainly more recognised these days. We use non-verbal communication so much that it must be very hard to understand things if through no fault of your own you don't "get" the signals.

[Sity]

No Im not. Im not sure how it goes where I live. Finding out...

Im not sure where exactly do I "go off". Definitely got a problem with social contact.

I made a test for facial expressions and got every single one right.

 

Diagnose would be the thing that would oblige the closest for me who don't

take my own word to except me as I am finally.

I can try manage alone of course but as they say lonely is so lone alone.

 

You know of this Asperger personally?

[hjbsrbab@hbibby.orangehom]

I know how you feel, I have this too. I have always been weak in social situations, and now I know that it is for a reason. I have been diagnosed with Asperger's and now I feel it is a part of me, even though I don't want it to be so. Sending love to you, Sam xoxox

 

Silver is right though, it is hard to pick up non-verbal communication signals and many find this difficult.

[ajbollin]

I don't know how this is going to help you, but Heather on from America's Next Top Model had it. She went really far in the competition. She was super sweet. I *think* this is her official MySpace. Maybe you can contact her about it.

 

http://www.myspace.com/hkmodel

 

[Sity]

I know how you feel

 

Oh wow, thanks. You have it back too.

 

Went to a forum about it and the people there seem to share same kind of

difficulties. So the diagnose would help me in working life. Another area I have constant problems in.

 

Thanks ajbollin, I could always try.

[im_stuck_in_the_middle]

Hey Satu!

 

I do have some experience with this condition, because I have a family member who is thought to have it, and I'd like to ask - Have you ever read a book called "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time" (by Mark Haddon)? It definetely gave me and others who read it a valuable insight on Asperger's Syndrome. Also, do you have any habits with your hands, etc that you have around people, e. g. cracking knuckles, throwing a certain object in the air, etc? Most people with Aspergers I know do so.

 

Take care,

Madalena xx

[dcdeb]

Hi Satu,

 

My friend's daughter (16) has been diagnosed with Asperger's and also

has clinical depression... It's not easy at all, even with the help of

caring family and friends, so if you can get an official diagnosis and

some professional help it will certainly make life better, I would think.

 

Good luck and thanks for trusting us enough to share with us... hope

things get easier for you in this regard soon.

 

dcdeb

[PhotoJenic]

I know a bit about this syndrome. I would ask some doctors if they have an info of where you can go to get tested. Generally I don't believe anything medical is done like blood tests (I don't see how) it's just questions and tests and I think they take note of your reactions to diferent things/situations.

 

This syndrome has become more and more common these days and it's one of those things where you can't just look at someone and tell. It all depends on what end of the spectrum you have, if you have a mild case or if it's more... I don't want to use the word severe but I can't think of another word right now. Most people won't be able to tell if you have it even if they're your best friend, they just might think you're little odd at times, sadly, but hey no one is normal.

 

Also if you happen to get tested and it's positive that you have it... don't feel dumb or depressed about it! People with this aren't dumb. They just might stumble at learning some things, or learn things at a slower pace, but other times they can learn things faster than anyone else and they tend to have something that they are VERY talented at doing.

 

Do you happen to be in school? Sorry I don't know your age or anything haha. If so and if you have this make sure to talk to the special education people at your school and they can set up accommodations for you, like if you need extra time to take tests or if you work better on tests in a different room instead of with everyone else etc.

[Sity]

Have you ever read a book called "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time" (by Mark Haddon)?

 

Thanks for the book tip, have not read it but I will have an eye for it.

Got to know of the syndrome better only 3 days ago... so in no ways sure I

ever had it. Have got autism in family though. Actually I don't think I do any

characteristic "waving around" with my hands. I've had a rough life, I am the

opposite since I think I focused to stay out of way. I can sit still for hours, kind of close myself inside and feel safe. Oh and I've been a mess, is that enough for a diagnosis?

 

dcdeb

 

Truly a diagnose would make it.

Even to think you actually can be and feel like this makes a great relief.

I need to study it. And thanks a lot.

Maybe it will help some others too.

[Sity]

 

This syndrome has become more and more common these days and it's one of those things where you can't just look at someone and tell.

 

Yeh it seems to be a variable thing between cases. I would like to get tested

and get help - as it seems I struggle without it. Anyway I want an approval

for my "problem", which for once sounds like it's here. I hate having to think

throughoutly every tinyest social move I make not to get people I care feel like

Im pissing them.

It's always been like that.

 

- Im out of there if they want my blood and brain in a plate!

 

And with school, well I struggle with it greatly (not the studying part but

everything else) - will look into it once I take courses again. I think I need

diagnosis first before they're doing anything, if even then.

Thanks so much for all support!

[ArachnidKid]

Aspie pride right here!

I was misdiagnosed as having OCD as a child and only found out later that it was actually Asperger's. What gave it away was the fact that well into my teens, I used to wave my arms and bang my legs on the ground. It wasn't in anger or anything, it just made me feel good. I found out this is called "stimming." I love walking around in circles for the same reason (I still do this).

I make lists of everything and follow them. It makes me feel good to do this.

And like most Aspies, I have trouble with social situations. I can't look people in the eye and parties pretty much suck for me

 

But I really don't think of it as a disorder. I think of it as a personality trait. I kind of like having it (at times).

[chickadee]

Satu, I'm gonna send you a pm.

[im_stuck_in_the_middle]

Thanks for the book tip, have not read it but I will have an eye for it.

Got to know of the syndrome better only 3 days ago... so in no ways sure I

ever had it. Have got autism in family though. Actually I don't think I do any

characteristic "waving around" with my hands. I've had a rough life, I am the

opposite since I think I focused to stay out of way. I can sit still for hours, kind of close myself inside and feel safe. Oh and I've been a mess, is that enough for a diagnosis?

Hey!

the book is great:cool:

I was watching a program on the spectrum yesterday, and it said that one symptom of Asperger's is that they avoid eye contact, focusing more on people's mouth - I do that a lot too, but maybe it's because of may lazy eye though.

 

xx Mad

[Blue Sky]

I have friends who have children who are Aspies. Sometimes the parents have found out later that they are too.

 

My friend translated a book called

Different Croaks for Different Folks

 

You can get it on amazon.com

 

They have so many books listed there now. (One is called All Cats have Asperger's. )

 

I read one once a long time ago called

Asperger Syndrome And Difficult Moments by Brenda Smith Myles

 

She has written quite a few books, with plans and workbooks etc. She found she herself was an Aspie when her daughter was diagnosed. It was very interesting reading and helped me to understand my friend's situation.

 

 

[nico_collard]

Hey!

the book is great:cool:

I was watching a program on the spectrum yesterday, and it said that one symptom of Asperger's is that they avoid eye contact, focusing more on people's mouth - I do that a lot too, but maybe it's because of may lazy eye though.

 

xx Mad

 

I do that as well... I hate looking people in the eye and it makes me uncomfortable... I only do it now cause i know people will think it's rude if I don't... and I've trained myself to do it... took me forever to do it though... I still don't do it sometimes...

 

Actually, my niece has Autism (or to be more specific Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified - cause she was diagnosed after the age of 5)... and my mother thinks I have Autism cause my niece is exactly the same as me at the same age... same sort of behaviours... though I've never been tested for it... not that it make a great deal of difference to me at this age..

[blue grey]

I looked someone in the eye and fell in.

[im_stuck_in_the_middle]

I do that as well... I hate looking people in the eye and it makes me uncomfortable... I only do it now cause i know people will think it's rude if I don't... and I've trained myself to do it... took me forever to do it though... I still don't do it sometimes...

 

Actually, my niece has Autism (or to be more specific Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified - cause she was diagnosed after the age of 5)... and my mother thinks I have Autism cause my niece is exactly the same as me at the same age... same sort of behaviours... though I've never been tested for it... not that it make a great deal of difference to me at this age..

Thanks:wub2: Makes me think I'm not alone.

 

I looked someone in the eye and fell in.

Yeah, it has it's down side:thumbdown: