Doing gender and sexuality in health and one section of the standard is about a music video and the messages it gives society about how you should be as boys and girls.
I've been arguing a lot with the class (and the teacher) because when we're asked something like "Do you object to women having exposed breasts in historical art?" and everyone says yes, I say NO because I think if it's ok for men to walk around with shirts off, why can't I?
They say "Well that part's quite sexual..."
But I don't think a woman's breasts are more sexual than a man's... Breast? and if people see it like it is, it's only because it's not shown in society and so it's something that, by nature, people want to see more of, but is shameful to be shown.
Like in the 19th century, there was a club in France(?) where female dancers used to dance in dresses that showed little parts of their stocking clad legs.
Such a scandal those girls were, showing their stockings like that!
Now it's something schoolgirls do. Because there's been so much exposure to it, legs arn't looked at like scandalous objects of people's bodies that should be hidden away.
So you see, everyone has the opinion that takes about 2 or 3 sentences to explain and mine are all really long winded and people think I'm crazy or need a life by the time I explain it all because many of them believe that people should just learn stuff at school and not question it, have a million friends on your contact list and a boyfriend and blablabla...
Sorry, that's a personal remark at one person. But I know there are many more out there and even in my class!
So you see, you could forgive me for thinking that when my teacher skipped asking me about our group projects and spoke over the top of me to go to the next group when I interjected, the teacher had grown tired of my constantly going against the grain.
So after class I confronted her. "You're getting sick of me arn't you?"
"No, why would you say that?"
"Well, you asked the boys behind us "What was your story? (they had to assess the gender messages of sleeping beauty)" and then you asked "What do you think the message of it was?" and asked if they agreed. But when you got to us, you asked Nat (we werer in groups of 2) what the story was and then you just explained your opinion of the message to the class and went onto the next one. And you interractd more with the groups that you talked to, all except ours."
She was sorry. But I explained to her - Trying to appeal my case - that we're studying a lot of mainstream products (ie. fairies, bob the builder, beyonce and j-lo's videos and other big muscly rappers music videos) when the kind of messages that those things give are one of several kinds of messages and even though it's a big part of the world, it's not a big part of MY world. I told her I'm influenced more by a magazine that is available as a webzine to save paper for the environment and is focused on fashion of real people, indie or lesser known music and environmental issues (Amelia's magazine) and my favourite singer, Mika who, at first glance, wants to portray the typical gay man, but in truth, is all about being free to express yourself as an indavidual and not a gender and be free to love who you want and not be defined by it or be labeled by it and this is shown in his music.
She was really interested and asked if I might give her some youtube links to his videos and at first I said no because I knew people would get mean about it but then I thought, screw them, if I can write about Mika for another assignment, I'd love to have a second opinion on the messages the videos convey and I'm always up for a discussion on his music and I had the common decency to address a problem I saw (feeling like I'd annoyed my teacher) and it had lead to this so what the hell, I'll give you links!
So I came back the next day with a peace of paper with "Mika - Big Girl (You Are Beautiful)" written in tidy writing and told her to look at it before showing it (just in case. You know I can't handel people being mean to fat people.
I don't see how GK, LT, HE, LP, relax, WAG, Rain or Blame could be written about. The main idea is to write about a video with strong messages as to what boys and girls should act and look like and what they should do and have and how they are in relation to the opposite gender. The only video I saw having a message like that was Blame with the pink background and clothes (when boys have anything to do with pink, they must be gay) and the boy/girl dancers (boys should wear little colour and should wear pants while girls should wear skirts and dresses and wear colour and have long hair and makeup).
But I wanted BG because of the messages I saw just watching it over inside my head:
1) Fat people CAN wear colourful, fitted, sexy clothes and look attractive and dance around in public and have value.
2) There are scenes with the ladies holding, lifting up or walking with chidren and this shows them as mothers rather than symbols of men's desire.
3) If Mika touches the girls, it's only being playful. Does that show that fat people can be sexy too and that touching (like his head between lady-in-purple's legs and resting his head on boobs) can be friendly and not have to lead to sex? (Would be great if someone might shed some light on this for me).
4) the giant celebratory, parade-like march they appear to be doing is like a celebration of the beauty of fat people - Fat GIRLS (it doesn't say much about boys at all besides "Big boy come on round and they'll be callin' you baby") and that's like saying BIG WOMEN HAVE VALUE and that it's totally ok not to be skinny and that you can be proud of your weight.
Just thought I ought to share