DarkLight Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 i think there's tiny bit of confusion on my i'm leaving thread i said on there i was leaving temporarily & that'd i'd probably be back by new year which i am!!! so here i am back again:punk: feel free to go off & be miserable now about that:naughty: you haven't gotten rid of me yet!! hahaha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mika-fan1001 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 yay! welcome back!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Niki27 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 i think there's tiny bit of confusion on my i'm leaving thread It's probably why it'd be better to create goodbye threads when you're really leaving? Really as in for good or for more than a couple of weeks? Nothing personal, DL, I know a lot of people open goodbye threads when they know they won't log in for a little while, but in all seriousness, this is not the point of this section, or soon people will open a thread to warn they're going to the toilet, and another one to say they're back in front of their computer. And yes, it creates confusion. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but it had to be said. I'm even more sorry it happens in this thread in particular, again, nothing personal, but the fact you said it created confusion was just the right occasion to remind people not to abuse this kind of threads. /rant over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkLight Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 It's probably why it'd be better to create goodbye threads when you're really leaving? Really as in for good or for more than a couple of weeks?Nothing personal, DL, I know a lot of people open goodbye threads when they know they won't log in for a little while, but in all seriousness, this is not the point of this section, or soon people will open a thread to warn they're going to the toilet, and another one to say they're back in front of their computer. And yes, it creates confusion. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but it had to be said. I'm even more sorry it happens in this thread in particular, again, nothing personal, but the fact you said it created confusion was just the right occasion to remind people not to abuse this kind of threads. /rant over. nope my point was i WAS intending initialy to leave for quite a long while as i was being bullied but a few of my friends persuaded me to stay so i decided to just leave for a week or so instead! believe me i fully intended to leave for quite some time but why should i let bullies stop me from being on a site i love being a member of? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gracekelly85 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 WELCOME BACK DEAR! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Niki27 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 nope my point was i WAS intending initialy to leave for quite a long while as i was being bullied but a few of my friends persuaded me to stay so i decided to just leave for a week or so instead! believe me i fully intended to leave for quite some time but why should i let bullies stop me from being on a site i love being a member of? I've been a member for quite a while now, there have been times where I got fed up with this place, especially after an argument or after having been treated in a harsh way by a member, and trust me as mod, it happens quite regularly (I'm mentionning this because you're a candidate, if I ain't mistaking). And yes, out of anger, out of tiredness, I also happened to think it was enough at times, that I would leave and blabla. But such a decision needs to be thought through, and the next morning you usually understand you have far too many friends on this board, and that you have far too much interest in Mika's whereabouts to leave the MFC for good. So before rushing and opening a goodbye thread, before making a dramatic exit, just take a short break away from the computer. It can't do harm, on the contrary. And if a week later you don't miss the MFC, come and say goodbye THEN. Otherwise, I'm afraid people will start not believing anyone who's leaving for real anymore and just think "pfff, another one who'll be back in 2 days". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I've been a member for quite a while now, there have been times where I got fed up with this place, especially after an argument or after having been treated in a harsh way by a member, and trust me as mod, it happens quite regularly (I'm mentionning this because you're a candidate, if I ain't mistaking). And yes, out of anger, out of tiredness, I also happened to think it was enough at times, that I would leave and blabla. But such a decision needs to be thought through, and the next morning you usually understand you have far too many friends on this board, and that you have far too much interest in Mika's whereabouts to leave the MFC for good. So before rushing and opening a goodbye thread, before making a dramatic exit, just take a short break away from the computer. It can't do harm, on the contrary. And if a week later you don't miss the MFC, come and say goodbye THEN. Otherwise, I'm afraid people will start not believing anyone who's leaving for real anymore and just think "pfff, another one who'll be back in 2 days". Like...the boy who cried wolf? Or whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naectegale Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 If you are leaving for a short while - eg holiday - you can leave a message to that effect on your profile page - as a message. Then if friends wonder where you are, they can look at your profile page& see it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kata Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlindee Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I've been a member for quite a while now, there have been times where I got fed up with this place, especially after an argument or after having been treated in a harsh way by a member, and trust me as mod, it happens quite regularly (I'm mentionning this because you're a candidate, if I ain't mistaking). And yes, out of anger, out of tiredness, I also happened to think it was enough at times, that I would leave and blabla. But such a decision needs to be thought through, and the next morning you usually understand you have far too many friends on this board, and that you have far too much interest in Mika's whereabouts to leave the MFC for good. So before rushing and opening a goodbye thread, before making a dramatic exit, just take a short break away from the computer. It can't do harm, on the contrary. And if a week later you don't miss the MFC, come and say goodbye THEN. Otherwise, I'm afraid people will start not believing anyone who's leaving for real anymore and just think "pfff, another one who'll be back in 2 days". I already think that. That's why I never reply to goodbye and Im back threads anymore.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkLight Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 (edited) I've been a member for quite a while now, there have been times where I got fed up with this place, especially after an argument or after having been treated in a harsh way by a member, and trust me as mod, it happens quite regularly (I'm mentionning this because you're a candidate, if I ain't mistaking). And yes, out of anger, out of tiredness, I also happened to think it was enough at times, that I would leave and blabla. But such a decision needs to be thought through, and the next morning you usually understand you have far too many friends on this board, and that you have far too much interest in Mika's whereabouts to leave the MFC for good. So before rushing and opening a goodbye thread, before making a dramatic exit, just take a short break away from the computer. It can't do harm, on the contrary. And if a week later you don't miss the MFC, come and say goodbye THEN. Otherwise, I'm afraid people will start not believing anyone who's leaving for real anymore and just think "pfff, another one who'll be back in 2 days". i did leave it for a while i also mentioned in that thread that i was quite busy also so wouldn't have time for the mfc now can you just lay off me for chrissakes i haven't commited a crime or anything:sneaky2: Edited January 10, 2009 by DarkLight Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mary Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 C'mon Chantelle, no need to be p***ed off, hun! Niki just used your thread to try to avoid some excessive use of this kind of threads, the message was not only for you. I think she's right, and as a mod, it's her job to sometimes say the things that we don't like to read. LOL Welcome back, btw! Hope the bullying thing is over now. MFC is definately NOT a place for that kind of stuff! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Niki27 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 That's my point! You don't open such a thread to say you're busy, or that you are going on hols for a week, or whatever. Before being accused being on your back, I will indeed let it go. But again, it was nothing personal and I don't see why I wouldn't be allowed to speak against this sorta threads which annoy everybody. Secondly, for someone who keeps claiming she was bullied, i find it quite ironic you use such a tone with me... Be careful before accusing others of what you do yourself and keep in mind what goes around comes around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diana Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Niki just used your thread to try to avoid some excessive use of this kind of threads, the message was not only for you. I think she's right, and as a mod, it's her job to sometimes say the things that we don't like to read. LOL Exactly. DarkLight, in your job application (for the position of moderator on this board) you stated that you've moderated several forums. Then you of all people should understand that what Niki27 posted is merely her trying to do her job. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikas_gal07 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 (edited) I've been a member for quite a while now, there have been times where I got fed up with this place, especially after an argument or after having been treated in a harsh way by a member, and trust me as mod, it happens quite regularly (I'm mentionning this because you're a candidate, if I ain't mistaking). And yes, out of anger, out of tiredness, I also happened to think it was enough at times, that I would leave and blabla. But such a decision needs to be thought through, and the next morning you usually understand you have far too many friends on this board, and that you have far too much interest in Mika's whereabouts to leave the MFC for good. So before rushing and opening a goodbye thread, before making a dramatic exit, just take a short break away from the computer. It can't do harm, on the contrary. And if a week later you don't miss the MFC, come and say goodbye THEN. Otherwise, I'm afraid people will start not believing anyone who's leaving for real anymore and just think "pfff, another one who'll be back in 2 days". I actually thought this was a very nice piece of Advice Niki ... ive also felt this way before , along with many other members ... but i decide to take a break temporarily without going to lengths such as making a thread ... god knows , this place is a magnet and draws you back eventually anyway, ... () therefore i personally havent seen the point in doing so , and have followed the same advice from myself , which you have just helpfully given out also Edited January 10, 2009 by mikas_gal07 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kata Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Could also be put as this: Quit asking for attention if you don't want attention Those of us who thought the first thread was ridiculous are not gonna think this one is any better and those who didn't think the first one was stupid obviously already gave you the attention you were seeking since you're still here Am I a bully now? Maybe, but I find it quite rude to hint about bullies on a public forum instead of just solving the problem, so I'm slightly offended by your threads and ongoing mentions of the alledged bullying! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcdeb Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 i did leave it for a while i also mentioned in that thread that i was quite busy also so wouldn't have time for the mfc now can you just lay off me for chrissakes i haven't commited a crime or anything:sneaky2: C'mon Chantelle, no need to be p***ed off, hun! Niki just used your thread to try to avoid some excessive use of this kind of threads, the message was not only for you. I think she's right, and as a mod, it's her job to sometimes say the things that we don't like to read. LOL That's it exactly, Darklight -- Niki wasn't just directing her comments at you, but using your situation as an example. I think was perfectly good advice -- and your tone is a bit argumentative and defensive, which there's no need for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soaring Simpson Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 (edited) If you are leaving for a short while - eg holiday - you can leave a message to that effect on your profile page - as a message. Then if friends wonder where you are, they can look at your profile page& see it That's a good idea- though I can't say the "going on hol" threads bother me. Edited January 10, 2009 by Soaring Simpson Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlindee Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Could also be put as this: Quit asking for attention if you don't want attention Those of us who thought the first thread was ridiculous are not gonna think this one is any better and those who didn't think the first one was stupid obviously already gave you the attention you were seeking since you're still here Am I a bully now? Maybe, but I find it quite rude to hint about bullies on a public forum instead of just solving the problem, so I'm slightly offended by your threads and ongoing mentions of the alledged bullying! Have I ever told you how much I love you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Have I ever told you how much I love you? I was JUST thinking that! telepathy. and love for kata. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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